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Three Types of Annoying Neighbors and What to Do About Each One

If you’ve been living on a street where homes sit shoulder to shoulder, you know that bad neighbors come in all shapes and forms. Some of them make it impossible to sleep at night, some can’t keep their pets under control, while others might practice drunk-walking around the neighborhood and scare your kids.

So a bad neighbor is anyone who lives next door (or next floor) and gets on your nerves regularly by doing something that’s not particularly illegal but exceptionally annoying. If it becomes uncomfortable for you to stay at home, chances are good it’s a bad neighbor to blame.

What to Do About Bad Neighbors?

Your course of actions should always depend on the level of annoyance your neighbor causes. In some cases, the best approach would be to accept the situation and learn how to stay indifferent. In others, it might be necessary to master the art of legal torment, while in especially rare situations, it would make sense to find the way to make your neighbor move (since bad neighbors are often bad tenants, there’s always a chance of.

Simply put, the key is to keep things reasonable. Entering into a war with a bad neighbor might take you down the wrong path and cost you a lot of healthy nerves. That’s why you should always start with a friendly approach and only refer to drastic measures when nothing else seems to be working.

What Types of Bad Neighbors Are There?

For the sake of simplicity, let’s group all nasty neighbors in three categories from least to most annoying ones and consider suggested courses of action for each.

Deal with annoying children

Type 1: Slightly Annoying Neighbors

Common Examples: Parents of not well-behaved kids who’re screaming all day long, drivers who got it wrong about parking rules, irresponsible pet owners having hard times taking care of their four-legged friends, overly friendly ladies who want to tell your their biography each time you meet, chronic borrowers.

Introduce Yourself & Get to Know Them Better

That’s what you need to do first thing if your neighbors start to annoy you on a regular basis. By simply introducing yourself and letting your neighbors know what bothers you might make wonders. Firstly, because people tend to be more ashamed and respectful in regards to those they know personally. Secondly, there is a tiny little chance that your neighbors have no idea they annoy you, and telling them so will solve the problem once and for all.

Don’t Accuse, Tell Them How it Makes You Feel

One of the most common mistakes is to accuse neighbors right from the start. A way smarter approach would be telling them you’re bothered and annoyed, but keeping the conversation friendly and polite. Try to find the root cause of your neighbor’s bad behavior and offer to help if they’ve happened to deal with a problem that makes them behave in a particular way.

Mirror the Behavior of Your Neighbor

A widely-used psychological trick, mirroring your neighbor’s behavior might help them realize their fault and never do things that annoy you again. At the same time, this approach will help you get even with bad neighbors (but only if you’re seeking revenge more than a solution of your neighbor-related problem).

Consider Using Mediators

So wags the world that some people get along with each other with ease, while others find it hard to understand each other’s concerns and feelings. If the second option describes you and your neighbor’s relationships, it makes a lot of sense to find a mediator who’s willing to solve the problem for the benefit of both parties. If you’re renting, get in touch with your landlord and ask if he or she is ready to mediate. As you’re the one sending checks to your landlord every month (or paying rent online), your comfort should be their concern as well.

Give a Warning (Concrete One)

Informing annoying neighbors on your willingness to contact their landlord or local precinct can sometimes make wonders. As long as you sound confident and concrete, a simple warning might be enough to make your neighbors stop doing things that annoy you.

Deal with annoying neighbours

Type 2: Annoying Neighbors

Common Examples: Party animals dancing and drinking 24/7, gossipers who spread rumors about you or your family, rock band singing the same chords in a garage self-made studio.

Seek Support From Other Neighbors

It’s always easier to achieve desired goals through joint efforts. If it’s likely that you’re not the only one unhappy about your neighbor’s behavior, you should check if someone else is ready to side you. This point is especially important if you decide to contact local precinct or file a complaint in court. In this case, quantity matters. The more people share your opinion, the more chances to win you have.

Call Your Neighbor’s Landlord

Most of the people don’t like to complain or report on others, but sometimes it’s the only way out. If your neighbors are long-term tenants, chances are good they don’t want to be evicted. If this holds true, it’s likely that your problem will be solved before you even know it.

Contact HOA (Homeowners Association)

This is probably one of the simplest ways to buy your neighbor out or put a stop to his or her annoying behavior. In some cases, a manager of the association could talk to a noise-making neighbor and fine them if a simple warning appears to be not enough. Chances are good this step would solve the problem at least to a certain extent.

Refer to the Governing Laws

If you’re dealing with noise, which is the most common reason for disputes between neighbors, refer to the letter of the law. There are ordinances to prohibit unnecessary, unreasonable, and excessive levels of noise meant to protect you from being a victim of noise-makers. If you’re able to prove that the problem is real and your neighbor is a source of it, you can refer to small claims court (for financial compensation) or regular civil court (to cease and desist the noise-maker).

Criminals bad neighbors

Type 3: Exceptionally Annoying Neighbors

Common Examples: Psychos, sneaky stealers, garbage collectors, criminals making their bad business right in front of your home.

Collect Evidence & Try to Force Your Neighbor to Move

If your neighbor’s behavior is exceptionally irritating but isn’t life-threatening, you may want to collect evidence and contact authorities (local precinct, cops, lawyers). Another option you have is to write a petition together with other neighbors. Have your petition signed by as many residents as possible and state a very specific grievance and desired outcome. Once done, present it to the landlord or HOA. In case your complaint is legitimate, the problem will be fixed relatively soon.

Consider Moving to Another ‘Hood

In some cases, the best decision is to move to another neighborhood. This is especially true if you’ve tried to solve the problem in different ways but nothing helped. Not even to mention the situations when living by a nasty neighbor is not only annoying but also dangerous. If you’re sure the person next door is involved in illegal business or is a psycho whose behavior might pose a threat to your health, report the problem to police and move out from your current place of residence as fast as possible.

On a Final Note

In some cases, neighbors might be the real nightmare next door. If it happens, the most common (and most natural) reaction in people is to arrange a bad neighbors revenge, find out how to get even with bad neighbors or even how to get them to move. But no matter what happens, remember that conflicts are best resolved through negotiations, not wars. Talk to your neighbors, tell them what bothers you, and propose a solution. Only refer to authorities in case a friendly approach doesn’t work or you have grounds to assume that your neighbors might have the history with the law.

65 Comments

  1. James says:

    Hi everyone! So we just recently had to move out of a house we were renting for over 3yrs. In the 3 years we have adopted 2 dogs. One is 2.5yrs old and 1yr 3months. Of course that was the start of covid. They are 80lb and 100lb dogs. Would not hurt a fly let alone a person. But with that said, moving into an apartment building is new grounds for them so learning that everyone isn’t gonna hurt us is a major dealing. Yes they will bark that hey, your here I see you. Is there intent but our neighbor is deathly afraid that they are pitbulls and are gonna attack. They have complained to the city and had them out in the 2 weeks that we have been here. Besides getting rid of our family member or moving, what would you suggest to do in order to defuse them from being like this towards us and the dogs? I really don’t want to hate my neighbour or have to bring the landlord in on this. Thanks for your time!

  2. Rosemary says:

    I have neighbors from hell the sad part is there family there constantly calling the cops on me and my friend
    I think we’re throwing rocks were breaking windows with BB guns slingshot never owned a BB gun or a slingshot I’m so tired of this

    • Rosemary says:

      What do you do with the neighbors from hell that are constantly calling the cops I have the sheriffs department and the state police at my home just about every night i’m so fed up with this Don’t nowhat to do anymore I need help

  3. R Anaya says:

    I have new neighbors. I’ve been in the hood 27 years. We all get along fine. But these neighbors the lady smokes like a chimney LITERALLY. All second hand smoke ends up in my yard and when I come out I gag. I have asthma my two sons have asthma and I informed her. Her husband gets deployed a lot and when he is home it’s better cause she doesn’t smoke near my door. She comes out every 40 to 60 minutes to smoke. She has little ones doesn’t she worry about them??!!

    • A St. John says:

      Call Child Protective Services they can remove the children if their mother continues to endanger them with her smoking. It’s only right those kids get a chance to live without a constant deadly exposure from her cigs. Their lungs are already damaged.

  4. Phoebe Camroux-Oliver says:

    My Neighbours hate me for being younger than them. Always try and call the cops on me try to make out that I’m a junkie that’s harming their houses image. I’ve never complained about being attacked by their dog or that their wife and child will invite themselves into my house and tell me why they don’t like my decorating. Makes me feel like I don’t own my own house. Help?

  5. Mark Maddalla says:

    Lived in a neighborhood for 20 yrs. Had an elderly lady who couldn’t mind her own business. Not just nosey, but mean. Called cops on a regular basis for nothing. The cops would show up smiling and shaking their heads. They couldn’t stand her but explained that they had to make an appearance every now and then. Sold that place and bought 11 acres and put my house in the middle of it. Blissful life ever since.

  6. Grows on you says:

    First off do not do anything illegal nobody is worth getting yourself in trouble and ruining a good reputation. One of my neighbors for 15 years would constantly shine bright spot lights on our home. Simple solution I finally woke up and installed a nice set of lights shining right back! 99% problem solved and it’s been months. Even though the couple behind me knew it was wrong what they were doing they do occasionally put them on but as I said 99% of the time it’s been better so far. Role reversal is a very powerful tool act as they do to you of course nothing illegal and some people with half a brain will realize it and knock it off. As for the rest you can’t fix stupid.

  7. I have neighbor that walks with his ? (girlfriend) every day. He will walk separately up my drive way across my yard and go to corner of his house. His girlfriend does not do this, thank goodness. I have pictures to show.

    2nd problem…when he blows leaves out of his yard into middle of street for wind to carry somewhere else…instead of bagging.

    Any suggestion on how to approach?
    THANKS

  8. Jennifer says:

    I have literally the worst neighbors one could possibly imagine, they make noise all hours of the day/night with their dirt bikes, ATV’s,ect. They have two aggressive dogs that aren’t under control nor are they on tie outs they claim they’ve put an invisible fence in and it’s in use however on more then one occasion after being “put in” their dogs have gone out of their yard and tried to attack other dogs.
    On more then one occasion they’ve gone after other peoples dogs and mine, the town I live in requires you to have a burn permit which they dont have and yet they still burn.
    The town also requires one to let neighbors know about any construction that is to be happening and when they also need a permit for that which they dont have.
    Dont get me wrong I dont have a problem with any other neighbor just them all the others like me, I know what many might say it’s easier to move but ive lived here longer they have.
    It’s a quiet place where everyone let’s you know what they’re going to be doing with the exception of general yard work that’s a given.
    They seem like they were going to be a problem until a few months after moving in as the last two tenants were pretty well behaved.
    It just seems to me they have absolutely no regards for anyone but themselves especially when I get complaints from other people asking if it was me.
    It’s like groundhogs day, what makes it worse is I’m having to explain that I’ve lived here for x amount of years and how much noise have they had from me.
    Everyone in my area has said they’ve spoken to the town about them and nothing seems to get done and I’m about ready to become one of the most annoying obnoxious people they’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting.

  9. cheryl L Chamberlain says:

    Larry Emder, when moving into an existing neighborhood, realize it’s you that has to “fit in”, not the other way around. You must be respectful & polite, especially when these neighbors have lived here decades. It’s not like the joy of our lives.

    • Shelly Stone says:

      Hi Cheryl, What would you do in this situation? I purchased a home 3 years ago. We have a paved shared driveway (common area) with 7 other homes. I noticed that a certain neighbor at the end of the driveway would shoot water down the driveway every day. The water streams down into the curb fronting my home. The asphalt is crumbling from all of the water and the rock particles end up in the curb in front of my home. The small gravel rocks (from the crumbling asphalt) get caught in our tires/shoes and end up in our garage and kitchen if we don’t sweep the curb and garage every day. I then noticed she was also shooting down her garbage can and her pet waste box and spilling it down the driveway, which I consider unsanitary. I approached her husband one evening to talk about it while he was standing in front of my home washing his freshly-cut grass clippings down the curb. He told me, “This is a common area” and the wife got angry, came running over, and started screaming at me. The husband told me, “Look, how long have you been living here? We have been doing this for many years and had no problems with anyone.” I’m assuming that no one had a problem because my house was a rental home before I purchased it. I asked them how they would like it if I put water in my garbage can and spilled it in front of their garage. Their answer was, “It will only roll back down into your area.” They have AstroTurf in their fenced back yard and a small area of live grass in front so everything gets washed down the common area in front of my house. Not fair that our homeowner maintenance fees will pay for the eventual re-surfacing of the common driveway when they are the ones who have damaged the asphalt. Your thoughts???

      • kajena says:

        Get them on video a couple of times doing what they do and also record the damages from their actions. Make sure they know you’re doing it and take it to the police.

  10. Rock says:

    My Neighbor kid So terrible around behind playing around annyoing sound i hate this..
    keep whislteing sound bad neigbor apartment ohio cedar trail.. this place kid so terrible annyoing even my neighbor hood upset.. i upset this apartment need report.

    • tonya sample says:

      Rock,
      hello. i’m sorry to ask , but, huh? is your comment in “code” of sorts. not quite following, but, i did try…
      🤔🤷🏼‍♀️

  11. roger smith says:

    View ‘Michael Huke’ on YouTube, assault a 71 year old who had parked on the road outside his house. The incident was reported to the police who declined to investigate (despite numerous requests).
    After 12 weeks someone uploaded the video onto YouTube, weeks later the bystander who had witnessed and videoed the incident was arrested at his place of work, charged with harassment as the video discredited Michael Huke before his staff at Lloyds Bank. 2 or 3 hours later the 71 year old was arrested at home with the same charge. Both were released later in the day without charge.
    23 other incidents of harassment by Michael Huke have been reported to the police over a 2 year period, including dangerous driving, anti-social behaviour, assault etc. Michael Huke has been served with 4 ‘cease and desist’ letters (to my knowledge) one for trespass, he signed an ABC (acceptable behaviour contract) for the Local Authority Anti-social team, he was prosecuted for allowing his dog to defecate on the highway outside a neighbour’s property.

  12. Eve Michel says:

    Deborah Rogers- I believe in prayer as well. My right side neighbor was a bad one with drug addict son. His son and friends parked his car with loud music in front of my house and they started drinking bears all night long and left the empty cans on my front yard. I talked to his mom about it, and they started picking the empty cans next morning. I felt sorry for her. Well, I pray so strongly to our Almighty Father and in less than one month the entire family was moving out. —Now, the neighbor on the left side are giving me problems. I told him that his son broke my fence throwing a ball and he didn’t fix. Also, he switched my trash can with his broken wheel one. I had to call the city for them to replace mine with a new one. The guy has a mechanic/body shop in his garage and use the streets to park the cars he has to fix. I told him that he cannot block my Mail box. I even received a note from the Post Office to remove the car, otherwise, they couldn’t deliver my mail. This is against the Law because this is a residential neighborhood. I don’t want to be stressed about it and I am praying for them to move to a place where he would have a plenty of space to do his business. I thank God that I read your notes, it gave me strength to pray some more and reminded me that God listens. God bless!! Thanks for the prayers!!

  13. Larry Emder says:

    how about all you people take a long hard look at yourself’s in the mirror maybe you are actually looking at the problem. Think back when the neighbors first moved in or you moved in (doesn’t really matter who was there first). I bet most of you were judgmental on how they looked, spoke or carried themselves or they said good day and you gave them the cold shoulder because you have judged them from the very first moment you’ve seen them. I see a lot of comments on here, and most of you sound like you carry your noses way to high. Example: Creepy neighbors who live off fraudulent insurance and workman’s comp settlements. 1: If you could back that up remotely with any evidence there would be an investigation and they would be kicked out and repay everything they got payed and if they could not do that they would be in jail.
    2: If you don’t have any evidence you are assuming (assumptions make an ass out of you and leave you open for libel, slander and defamation law suits).
    3: City Noise Ordinance, there is places you can go and complain if it proves to be right what you are complaining about they will get warnings and eventually go to court if it hasn’t stopped.
    4: Resident Quiet Hours Policy is straight up garbage unless you are at university (which all university’s enforce this), the only time this is warranted is if the landlord has this as a policy in the actual rental agreement (so i would read my rental agreement again) otherwise it is not a valid Policy and you should move on before it makes you look like a you know what again.
    5: As for Theodore Roberts (Oh boy please think before you speak) if you have used your real name and this person ever stumbles across this site, they can sue the pants of you for Defamation, Racism, Sexism and bigotry and that is just a start and there is nothing you can do about it. So please a little thinking with your comments here.
    6: MiTmite9 your comment collect evidence through form of recordings, videos, photos.
    REALLY???? In case you did not know (let me educate you a little) It is illegal in 90% of the world (unless you live in country’s with either military rule, communism or no law enforcement) to record video, photos or voice without the permission of the recorded person unless you are working for law enforcement and even then it is only possible with a cord order to do so otherwise it is inadmissible in any situation and you leave yourself open (yes you guessed it LAW SUITS again by the person you are recording)
    Closing words: Educate yourselves do research before giving other people the wrong advise or make assumptions or comments that can ruin your own lives.

    “Train Your Mind To Be Stronger Than Your Feelings”

    • S.kace says:

      Some people are friendly to no end to the new comers and are on friendly terms for years until they just snap. After handing all the evidence of gun shots at the house, Nazi supporting, racism, death/rape threats, drug deals in the front garden and much much more disgusting criminal behaviour (all caught on cctv) are handed the right authorities, they do nothing and say, it’ll take time but then when they do eventually get it their arses, they sit laughing and joking with the criminals right outside the victims residences. Maybe you shouldn’t make assumptions about the visitors and commenters on this site.

    • Kim Johnson says:

      It is perfectly fine to record loud noise stomping and on God know what else from noisy in considerate neighbors. You clearly are one of those people who think its ok to make your neighbors miserable while you enjoy your place. No one should have to listen to all the noise and stomping all times of day from their neighbors and no one should have to tell you that your floor is someone else ceiling and you should be mindful. My neighbors drag furniture all times a night even during the quiet hours listed in our rental agreement. They are only concerned with themselves and their good time. They keep up noise constant walking and stomping at 11pm and most times until 1am. I have talked till I am blue in the face and I am tired of it Me and my family should not have to listen to that on a daily basis but we do so I give as good as I get now. They keep up all the noise and want to play the victim. Hell naw.

  14. Kenn Sanderson says:

    I have neighbors, its more like a bunch of people from the community, that drive by my house, every few minutes blasting their radios. It does not start at a certain time, its all day long and all night long. They don’t have their radio loud when they are driving, they crank it up when they get near our house, and turn it back down when they closer to the next house. Mostly its base that makes that Boom Boom sound. They have been doing it for about 2 and half years. I have called the police many times, specially when it wakes me every night. Recently they have been getting worse, and I have not slept in days. I have sent letters to different places, including the Government, and no one will help. Our house has been for sale for a few years on and off, as we change realtors. When the police do help they drive up in their police cars and they all disappear. When the police leave, they all come back. The police say their is no law against how loud they want to play their radio. They play cat and mouse with the police while they harass me and my mom. I am 56 and mom is 79. We don’t get much sleep these days. I don’t have an income and she is retired and we barely make the bills. We need help. (I believe they also have a way of listening to everything we say.)(Amazon sells devices that listen thru walls for $50-$150, at a range of 300 feet.)

  15. Terri koulianos says:

    I have the worst hateful neighbors from WHEN THEY moved next door almost 9 yrs ago they tried desperately to claim 10 ft of my property. I told them the street lite was where the property ended. Then they mounded up six feetof addedsoil to their yard and. Built a in ground pool with no 10 ft setback THEY poisoned all the pine and mature trees on my lot a D made all the leaves come down too early in the season also they put propane torches all around thepool sometimes. Now every day I SEE HOLES IN THE GROUND and mushy dirt above it THEY are true criminals and tried to short-circuit my house I BELIEVE THEY WANTED TO TORCH my house so it would burn their house. They surged my house so bad that2 phones got actually burned out my AC OUT DOOR UNIT STOPPED. aLSO HAD TO REPLACE MY STOVE MICROWAVE FRIDGE WASHING MACHINE. aND OVERHEAD LIGHTING IN THE HOUSE. mY HOME IS ONLY 12 YRSOLD. They shot a bullet threw my car window July 2015. They managed to topple 2 eighty ft pine trees against myhouse in 2016 I HAD TOPAY OUT OF POCKET for new whole house vinyl because the other sides. Of my white vinyl could no ,longer be power washed for all the yrs of gas torches and fire pit burning they did. They have been in forclosure for the last 3yrs. Three yrs ago they started playing annoying tapes from their screened. In porch not music gunshots airraid noises. Banging metal sounds. If you call police and they see the car they stop. I called the assoc here manytimes. They do nothing also this summer I BELIEVE they stole water from you hose to their I use about 3300gal a mo and some readings were 13000 gal. Also they cut up my hoses on both sides of the house because they cidntwantme using waterwhi.E they were trying to torch my house THEY AND 2 OF their friends in the nice middle-class neighborhood with 300000 value of houses have helped them by shooting guns randomly. Putting mounds of red fire ants on my yard digging up my lawn to surge my underground wiring NOW I THINK THEY AREmoving. They packed up a trailer and left but the one in thehouse is making noise THEY are fuming mad that their evil manipulation didn’t work and show their hatred thru noise and extreme vandalism. Each tribe had to plant a whole new Lawn. I bought several tall and short solar lights and put them out I havexecurity cameras they know how to get around those too I NAE SPENT 20000 out of pocket for whatthis couple has done to me I HOPE THEY MOVE FAR away they have vandalized my property for over 8 yrs and woke me upseveral times for over 3 yrs every nite they make noise even in the daytimebecause their plan didntwork. The police know about the the assoc the electric company the water co BUT U HAVE TO PROVE IT. Only GOD CAN PUNISH EVIL PEOPLE LIKE THIS THESE PEOPLE ARE 60 YRS OLD THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO MAKE NOISE OR VANDALIZE MY PROPERTY THEY EVEN PUT SOME UGLY BLACK DOTS ALL OVER MY CONCFETE DRIVEWAY LATELY MY BOYFRIEND HAS HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE AND DIABETES AND CANNOT TOLERATE AY STRESS SO IVE HAD TO FIGHT THESE PEOPLE ALONE ON AN UNLEVEL. pLAYI G GROUND ANY SUGGESTIONS THANK YOU FOR READING THIS TERRI

    • Sam12587 says:

      My neighbor has always been unpleasant, frequently yelling at me, trying bully me, etc. When I was at work they were doing things in the blind spots of my security cameras that are mounted from the eaves.
      I kept not having time to run cables through the attic for new cameras in the blind spots & last fall I came home to my back yard totally trashed by debris thrown over the fence, broken flower pots(knocked over by the debris I think) and the smell of weed killer on my flowers (most did not come back this year). So, last winter I took some old cell phones and put an app called “Alfred” on them & set or hung them in the windows. It records on motion and stores footage for 5 days for free. I was able to successfully catch my neighbor doing enough in the spring to download & burn it to CD for the cops. While I never saw cops cars in my camera footage, I strongly believe something happened. The neighbor has been livid – I’ve been flipped off several times but I have not been yelled at or harassed in months!

      I have white power cords(that match the blinds) going to the phones & I put the phones in cases that kinda match the background of where they are sitting in the window. The cases also help keep the phone in the correct spot or angle.

    • deborah rogers says:

      Hello – I’d like to start out by saying I’m so sorry you are going thru this… I have a very troubling neighbor also – Prayer solves Everything – – As our loving Father above does hear our prayer… So lets pray this prayer. Father in Heaven – I’m releasing this prayer to you in behalf of Terri, myself, and anyone in need of Thy sending demonic neighbors to flee – – Father we know only you can handle the situation – No matter how big or small, Precious Father please intervene, remove these persons from our territory, as we open our minds hearts and souls to Thee, for Father – Let not these neighbors or anyone else take up our precious time in which we need to serve Thee and get the rest that we need, we believe in thee 100% Dear Lord – – and know that this Miracle, is done in Thy name Oh Lord – We half belief that Thou have healed the situation, and sent these neighbors on their way, that they can never hurt us again, Halleluhah, Amen – It is done !!! Praise God !!! Forever give him his praise, for He is so worthy. God Bless you. The bible says God will make your enemies your footstool… Just only believe – – devote yourself to him daily… He is so worthy.

    • Anera says:

      I agree. Any updates?

  16. mani says:

    Its so disheartening but the truth,we built our dream home,all our hard earned ,money has been put into it,savings,salaries etc ,literally everything.Our opposite vacant plots got homes built by some contractors and tenants moved in.All small houses built one above other like a pack of match boxes,sadly all from slum.Imagine our condition.We are not against people who are from low earning group or below middle class,we respect people from any class/group as long as they are civilized and well mannered.But to our bad luck,all sorts of cheap people have come here.The worst amongst all of them is a specefic family whose relative also stays on the top floor,together they are creating such a big mess.Keeps slandering about us because we have own house and they dont.Goes on and on,just doesnt stop,tried speaking with them but turned out more messier.the moment she sees us standing outside our gate or enjoying fresh breeze in terrace,she starts mocking along with her other relative,make fun of us,laugh,taunt.Its going on since a year.Please advice.It will be greatly appreciated.

  17. Horatio Belvedere III says:

    Of course, this list leaves out the worst neighbor of all, the ones who are hyper-aware of the surrounding properties without ever making an attempt to befriend the people occupying them. They do the passive aggressive thing of filing complaints with the city without engaging their neighbors face-to-face. If their neighbor’s spouse or child dies, they’ll never know, but they will certainly make a point of calling in to complain about the overgrown lawn while their neighbor grieves.

  18. Shelia Warford says:

    I have neighbors that have moved across the road, we all have acreage. He is a fowl mouth loose cannon who is obscessed with a piece of road that is easment on my corner. He and his wife are total a-holes. In other words their s–t don’t stink. They have created a lot of disruption in our small community of only 10 houses. I want to do something legally to piss them off and annoy them. They are a yound snotty couple. I need lots of suggestions. We planted more privacy trees to block them out and I know he was really mad. Any suggestions. Everyone else who lives here can’t stand them. They think the rules (we have an HOA) are for everyone else but them. Our roads are granite rock and after they built there house they were required to fix the road and they refuse to do so. I am a director along with 2 others and we are in the process of sending them an attorney letter about repairing the road. Any good suggestions to put them in there place?

    • Emily Hernandez says:

      I’d say that there’s not really anything you could do legally for annoying neighbors but what they are doing could potentially lead to harassment then, you could do something legally about it. The best option would to be just drop it and try not to let it get to you and once they se that they’re not phasing you anymore they will probably stop eventually. But if your not the one to do the silent treatment them you could start being as annoying as them and see how they like it…

    • Robert Frisbie says:

      A nice, natural way is to plant tall evergreen trees that can be grown as a shrub or be hedge to control height and width. I have the most nosy neighbors, so the first plants that I put into the ground was in a planting area closest to their nosy faces was a Bay Laural (Laurus nobilis), Pineapple Guava (Feijoa sellowiana), and for shrubs (Viburnum, Photinia) and lots of Bamboo. In the SF Bay Area, Bamboo works great, because it grows very fast after couple years, and if you want to annoy them back, plant Black Bamboo (Phyllostachys nigra) because it is very invasive and will grow in their yard as well, and if they are not gardeners the Black Bamboo will take their yard over or plant Golden Bamboo (Bambusa ‘Alphonse Karr’), or if you want to cover the view of an ugly large house or apartment building, try the Giant Timber Bamboo (Bambusa oldhammii), and the same tree/shrubs listed above….

      ….For the not so nice, and unnatural way is to find out what makes your neighbors tick? My neighbor is narcissistic, doesn’t care much about his own wife, kids or trespassing into our yard, but he really cares “a lot” about his money.

      So, find out where he works, write a letter about his psychopath behavioral traits to the owner of his company, and warn them (you are just pushing karma about these jerk neighbors) and try to get the kook fired. If they own the business, contact their clients and note all the liabilities about your neighbor, but remain anonymous to avoid further conflict and retaliation from the neighbor. Once he loses his job and get a new job, “rinse and repeat”, write another letter to his new employer. Once he starts to run out of money, his annoyances, disrespecting his neighbors will soon turn where he will be more concerned about paying his mortgage, instead of bugging you.

      If you neighbor has kids, find anything to report him to the local authorities, or if he is a drunk, abusive or homeschooling their kids – call child protective services; but it has to be legitimate, so you are not wasting our police services on time.

      Eventually you will become their annoying neighbor, but don’t let down your guard, keep documenting, get camera’s and if all fails walk by one of their lawn sprinklers, trip over and fall to the ground and sue the crap out of them

    • Sam12587 says:

      You could do what people have complained about on here. The decrease such actions would have to your quality of life I don’t know if it’d be worth it.
      I’ve always just tried to stick to my morals & ethics while the rude person flounders.
      Sometimes such people are just looking to upset other’s – it makes them feel empowered, entertained or something. If you try to do anything forthright they may view it as a pissing contest of sorts and escalations of such matters can get ridiculous.

  19. Robert Carey says:

    Actually HOA’s don’t have any legal authority to do anything. They can only make sure your grass is cut, or enforce zoning laws. The only way to remove an annoying person, is but using the city legal system.

  20. Nichole | Wildly Alive says:

    “conflicts are best resolved through negotiations, not wars”- Totally agree with this! No matter what happens, no matter how rude your neighbors are. It is never a solution to be rude to someone. Always be kind to others and everything can be resolved with talking and negotiating. Thank you for this!

  21. William Hart says:

    I moved that’s the best solution. Sold my house to a cop.

    • Dave says:

      That is the best solution I’ve heard of yet, particularly for our situation. Thanks for the idea! Good luck with your new location.

  22. Shelly Weinberg says:

    There are more types of bad neighbors. How about the neighbors that don’t take care of their property? And you don’t live in a neighborhood with an HOA? The neighbors that don’t cut their grass or weeds. Dead plants just stay there until they start to decompose as they stand there. Neighbors who let their dog poop on your property but if they see your cat out they call the cops? Or a guy that outs out a dead fall trap in his backyard, doesn’t work, but says he’ll take care of it in 6 days? The lazy, crazy, stupid, filthy neighbors what do you do about those? Buy a house in a nice neighborhood, new crap moves in 🙁

    • Horatio Belvedere III says:

      So, you just let your cat wander around outside killing birds and crapping on your neighbor’s lawns? That’s certainly worse than someone letting the yard they own become overgrown or them digging a pit on their own property. I bet you are the actual bad neighbor in this scenario, or at least the judgemental one monitoring everyone else’s yards.

      • Sam12587 says:

        Horatio,
        Please note, that while I do respect your hate for felines; cats will keep mice & rates away which is a benefit to the community. Due to my neighbor I can assure you that unkept yards will bring such scurrying creatures!

        Uninjured birds are much harder for cats to catch since they can very easily escape. There are 3 cats in my neighborhood & I have never seen them catch a bird. I have seen them taking moles/voles, mice, etc home to the their owners.

        Also, a cat can keep the rabbit population in check and that will help perennials/vegetables not get eaten down. As long as the cat can’t breed (spayed/neutered), it can be used in a beneficial way.

      • kibs jones says:

        and You sound like a person who despises cats. My neighbors cats come over here and sit at my bird feeding station, i gently shoosh them home. You cant control everyones cats, but they arent the big bad killer of all birds that you seem to make them out to be. calm down Karen
        ps yes neighbors who never tend their lawns – never mow, leave unsightly trash or rodent attracting areas do cause unreal amounts of problems for the people who live near them. its not just about the visual. get real!

    • gurp prtet says:

      it’s none of your business how the neighbor beside you weeds their lawn. You sound exceptionally nosey.

      • Devi Detroit says:

        Unless it brings Rats. We’ve had this twice now, rats directly from 2 neighbor’s houses, mainly from their food being out, BBQ never cleaned, no clean up after dogs.

        We got an Exterminator, they had to come for a full year. The rats and similar love weeds, hiding spots, piles of wood. Hell, they’ve got an entire broken 8-person hot tub, rats live under that thing, chase their dog. Total trash.

  23. mark myers says:

    its a crapshoot when complaining to the landlord most just want that check and they dont care.

    • MiTmite9 says:

      Best thing to do is to compile evidence in the form of recordings, videos, photos. Submit those to the landlord. This works well if the renters are in some way harming the value of the property or else giving cause for concern about liability. Sometimes you can write up your own “Cease & Desist” order and submit that to the landlord, via certified mail (to make sure it was received). Include photos, any proof regarding police reports done (dates, case #s, etc). Threaten to sue the landlord. This usually works wonders. No one wants to end up in a costly court case.

  24. Kosta Laskaratos says:

    I completely understand what you’re talking about. Have the same problem with this neighbor who thinks he own the next door house while he is just a tenant living for free. Gossips all over the place and told him to f off and stay away from me and my family. He is such a low life.

    • Melissa Rosati says:

      Stuck-up ignorant snobby neighbors. Obsessed with their lawns, no consideration. One weird stalker who goes around slandering good people. I cant wait to get out of here.

      • henri raymond says:

        I have the same problem, maybe we should talk, snobs slandering me, I do everything I can on a house I bought that was falling appart, they slander me in front of my house, creating huge scenes, I live in fear….

  25. Clara Clutchbutt says:

    My neighbor has my cell phone number and calls or texts me every….single……day. I have to shut my phone off at times when I do not want to be disturbed. I do not want to be friends with this lady and I do not want to talk to her every day. If I try to leave the house and she sees me, she comes running over to ask how I’m doing and starts chatting. She watches who comes and goes from my house from her front window. As soon as someone leaves, she starts texting me to see what they were doing at my house. She texts me about other neighbors and if I know what so and so is doing. No, I don’t know what so and so is doing because I don’t care. I do not know how to get this woman to leave me alone.

  26. Ray says:

    My neighbor is a creepy one. The guy sticks his nose in everyones business. He looks into people’s cars if he doesn’t know whose it is. Heard he has stolen Sunday newspapers off of driveways And I couldn’t stop laughing when I heard that. He’s moved people’s items even though it’s not his to move. He acts like the boss of the neighborhood. I play it cool with him because if he doesn’t like you, your on his [email protected] list for life. He’s a [email protected] loser who impedes on neighbors lives. Dude needs to find a hobby other than getting involved other neighbors business. his eldest son thinks he’s a thug (we live in a suburb). [email protected] man, when I’m driving in to our block and he wants to stop me and talk and i wave and keep going. Most of the neighborhood despises the side and this guy just doesn’t get it. Luis paglia of San Ramon, CA, get a hobby man people hate you in our neighborhood and you just don’t get it bro!

    • Bob C says:

      The only solution is to get into his face and tell him to back off. Threaten him with a harassment lawsuit.

    • Horatio Belvedere III says:

      By posting his identifying details online with unsubstantiated criticism and ad hominem attacks, you are committing libel and exposing yourself to potential litigation were he ever to find out. You may want to reconsider doing this in the future. On top of that, nothing you listed is worse than disparaging someone’s good name in a public forum. Your decision makes you the worse person of the two.

      • Sam12587 says:

        According to my atty it’s only libel if it’s actually untrue, can’t be proven true and cost the victim at least 5k in income or lost business prospects.

        I fail to see how the comment made would cost that person any income as it is not attacking his professional reputation, just his behavior outside of industry.

      • kibs jones says:

        and theres Horatio again…. your so full of good advice virtuous advice man. *insert sarcasm

  27. Righy says:

    Alas the selfishness of some neighbors is never ending. I am dealing with neighbors who seem to think it is God’s given right to let their dog bark at night. When politely confronted they first lied (“It wasn’t our dog” – “I saw you and it at 1 am” – “Oh well, um…”) followed by stating their right to enjoy their dog (at 1 am) vs our rights as home owners “Where do we draw the line?” they said. Fortunately the city animal control officer explained to them the ordinances and that “humans come first.” They have dramatically improved, but are acting like we in some way assaulted their freedom and ruined their life. Simply standing up for our rights has created so much animosity with grown adults who are either insane or 4 year old babies in disguise. Oh, get this. The first thing they said to us when we moved in before they got their dog – “I hope your dog is quiet, if not we would have to have a conversation.”

    • MiTmite9 says:

      Bad neighbors can make your life a living hell. People who haven’t lived through such torment just don’t get it. I’m glad you got Animal Control involved. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. Sometimes you just have to let the bullies know you won’t put up with their b.s. any longer.

    • Celine Mitchell says:

      I know how difficult this can be, 6 times this summer, neighbour’s cat craps in my yard and all I get is “oh, sorry” I mentioned the bylaw but they don’t care and have stopped acknowledging me. Karma? I found out my property line is 2 ft away from their house on their house access side…..lol ……. oh if I only had the money to build a fence, they’d have to park out front on the street and use their small “other side” access. I’ve been a good neighbour for 5 years, helping them when needed. Now, I’m the bad one for speaking up about their cats. Oh well. lol

  28. Theodore Roberts says:

    Thank you for posting. It makes me feel uncomfortable to have to go after a neighbor for a slight. I do have a bad neighbor who is trying to change the culture of our building (of long-time residents) vs. Someone who has been here less than six months trying to make new rules, playing the race card and out of control dogs. I, and others are now using the legal approach for her removal. Where do these people come from? If you are one, no one wants or likes you. Get help! Believe it or not, we have rights too. Word!

  29. Brenda Ellis says:

    I live and work from my apt. Creepy neighbors who live off fraudulent insurance and workman’s comp settlements moved in below. They monitor toilet use and keep me up all night with 24/7 noise. They violate our city noise ordinance and resident quiet hours policy, but the landlord refuses to enforce. They have proven to be too ignorant to respond to polite requests, or comply with policies. The only remedy that works once in a great while, is to give them their own medicine so they might realize how it feels. With the chronically rude – you are forced to move.

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